WIGTW is the abbreviation for When I Got This Wrong
Since I started blogging, I think I have touched on the sex subject, only once. Find the post, here. Most of us [Christians], shy away from this topic. I believe that keeping silent about sex in the church is dangerous, and over flogging it, has its own disadvantages, as other branches or ties of sex are then swept under the carpet. However, I am no expert, but I am no novice either. Not having knowledge or having the wrong understanding leads to destruction. So, I am pro having moderate and accurate knowledge of sex as youths, and it’s better learned from home first and the church, in that order.
Where the church is silent, the world fills the vacuum.
But before we go further into today’s post, I will like to state a few things [mantras]:
- Sex is a good thing. It is a gift from God. The abuse of sex is the bad thing. Abuse takes place when there is no accurate knowledge. [most times]
- Here- Precious Thoughts, the bible is our standard, therefore, we are pro: sex in the confines of marriage. No subtraction and no addition. No negotiation. No compromising.
From the last post on WIGTW, we got to understand that, we are not only taunted by the enemy in ignorance, but also in wrong understanding/interpretation of the Word of God. And I stated that the goal that this segment seeks to reach is to equip us, that we are not ‘light weight’ Christians, practicing biblical principles but having no understanding as to heart of God, for the commands.
Sometime ago, I was privileged to live with a woman who I consider a mentor, not because of her accolades, but because of her charisma. You know how you feel when you interact with someone who has been dining with Christ. Yes! That feeling. So much wisdom and practicality. And on this day, while preparing lunch in the kitchen, she asked me this question:
‘Princess, why are you abstaining from sex until marriage?’
I was so over-confident that I had the right answer. You know how our shoulders just pump up invisibly when we are so sure that we know something. I answered:
‘That’s what God says and I do not want to contract any of the STDs in the place of disobedience’
She smiled. Then she said:
‘Your answer is not wrong, but it is not substantial. You should keep God’s command because you love Him, not because you are scared of the consequences of not obeying His commands’
When she said these words to me, I felt like Saul turned Paul, scales fell off my eyes. Those were simple words, yet deep! I meditated on that conversation, and it has changed my life.
Why are you obeying God’s commands? Are you obeying God because you are scared of what will happen if you don’t obey or are you keeping His commandments because you have gotten to a place of worship where the fruit of your love for God is obedience to Him?
Let’s go to the beginning….
And he said to the woman, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden?” And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden; but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat it, nor shall you touch it, lest you die’.”Then the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”…..Genesis 3 v 1-5 [NKJV]
And we know how it ended, Eve ate of the fruit and gave to Adam. There are so many lessons to discuss from this passage, but I will stay on ‘today’s lane’.
The thing with obeying God out of fear [not in a reverential manner, fear of the consequences of sin] is that the enemy ends up finding a way of belittling the commands of God, that it appears to carry no so much weight compared to the reasons he gives us. In the above scripture, Eve was scared of dying. Her understanding was that; ‘If I eat that fruit God said, I shouldn’t touch, I will die’. I won’t delve into the meaning of the ‘death’ [separation from God], but the devil knew that the thing Eve feared was death, so he showed himself- Mr Cunny. He downplayed the thought of death, by selling the ‘You will be just like God, knowing everything, ranging all the way from good to evil’.
I am using the word, ‘downplayed’ because, it was not like what the devil told Eve was a lie; he presented it in a way that the severity of death was nothing compared to being like God. And believe it, when I say he is still in this business till this day. The devil is not coming in the form of a serpent anymore, he is now the ‘preacher’, the media, the friends, the theories etc.
Why are we abstaining from sex until you are married?
Therefore, I urge you, brethren, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God- this is your spiritual act of worship…. Romans 12 v 1 [NIV]
Just stating the above scripture and leaving it at that, will be defeating the goal of today’s post. A spiritual act of worship cannot take place without love for God. Without love, it becomes a religious performance.
Let’s go deeper…
….Remember that your bodies are created with the same dignity as the Master’s body. You wouldn’t take the Master’s body to a whorehouse, would you? I should hope not. There’s more to sex than mere skin, on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we have become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever- the kind of sex that never “become one”…….Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the works. So let people see God in and through your body. 1 Corinthians 6 v 14-20 [MSG]
I urge you to read the whole chapter. But this commentary from Eugene H. Peterson sheds more light…
The body is God’s chosen way of putting love into action, by satisfying longings for pleasure, showing mercy, and demonstrating what is true and real. We never become more spiritual by becoming less physical. Love that doesn’t find physical expression is practically invisible; mercy that doesn’t find physical expression is merely sentimental; pleasure that doesn’t find physical expression is purely fantasy.
Some people say that the body is bad and sex is dangerous. But Paul didn’t agree. He saw the body as good and sex as good. They’re dangerous and destructive not when they’re used but when they’re misused. Paul didn’t say, “Because sex is so dangerous, avoid everything to do with the body.” Instead, he said, “Your body is a sacred place of the Holy Spirit….So let people see God in and through your body”. We won’t learn how to be more spiritual by becoming less physical. The body, with its appetites, its pleasures, and all its various functions, is what God has chosen to make his love real among us.
Please understand that the commentary and scripture couldn’t have been avoided in this post. I know they are long, but they are very worth it.
So what are we taking away from this post:
- Our act of worship stems from our love for God. If we say we love God, we offer our lives [our bodies] as sacrifices to Him.
- We should not obey God because we are scared of the consequences of disobeying Him. We obey God, because we love Him.
Also, if I may add, the ways in which the enemy is infiltrating and downplaying the act of worship with our bodies, by abstaining from sex until marriage are:
‘You need to know if you are sexually compatible with your partner, therefore, test run’
‘Sex before marriage is not a big deal, what century are you from?’
‘It is okay if you don’t want to have sex before marriage, but there are alternatives for sexual satisfaction’
‘Do it. God is merciful, He will forgive you’
These are just a few examples, but I want us to remember who we belong to. God! And God alone. Abstaining from sex until marriage won’t be easy, hence the reason, it is called a sacrifice. We cannot offer unto God something that won’t cost us anything.
His grace is sufficient for us all.
So why are you abstaining from sex until marriage? Have you heard/know of any ‘lightweight’ reasons that are given?
PT TIP OF THE DAY
If you love me, show it by doing what I’ve told you. John 14 v 15 [MSG]
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