‘Can we be honest with each other?’
It is no news that it’s easy to talk about the good, the merriment and successes we experience, but when it’s time to be vulnerable or transparent in sharing the mistakes we have made or sad experiences we have gone through, we close up. We mask up with smiles, dishing out the notion that everything is alright. Is it really?
Well, let’s just say that I admit that plain transparency is not my forte, but I will not sell the notion that I have everything together. Yes! I am a Christian, and I do not have it all together; hence the reason I need Superman Jesus Christ.
Should I start with how inconsistent I have been with blogging of late? Oh well, I have my reasons. Substantial reasons. But I won’t justify my inconsistency, I will just work on it.
It is amazing how I was very consistent with my blogging when I had no laptop or internet at home for the past nine months, and the blog posts kept flowing. Yes! all the posts you have read here since the beginning of the year was done with ‘extra sweat’. My laptop finally bid me farewell in January, and I had pressing needs like my exams, missions trip to Haiti, etc; that took precedence in my list of priorities. So how did the posts make it up here?
I typed out the posts with my brother’s laptop whenever he was not using it, saved it on my flash drive, then took it to a resource center close to home, edited and uploaded. Viola!
I did this for eight months. Thank God for grace, because there were days when there were obstacles that made it hard to continue doing it. But for God’s grace, and my love for y’all. I could have blogged with my phone, but I could not, it was beyond frustrating, so blogging with my phone was a no-no.
Well, now that phase is over, it has been over for some weeks now. But why do I have to share this with you?
You cannot be defined by what you do not have. What you do not have does not dictate the quality of life you live, and how you live it.
What you do not have does not make you less special.
I know we are presently living in a world where you need to have it all together, and showing the world that you have it all together is the trend, it’s okay for a trend to exist; but don’t get caught up in that web of deceit. No one has it all together. Not that very pretty/handsome, articulate, smart person. And you have no business wishing on the stars for another person’s portion, if you were supposed to have it [them], it [they] will be yours.
If you were stripped of your gadgets, mansions, cars, makeup, shoes, clothes and all the fanciful; will we still be wowed by your existence? Are you allowing the things you have define who you are and how far you can go?
Change how you see yourself. If you define what makes you, by the things you have, then there is still some work to be done. We will lose things, we will gain things. The beauty of our lives should not be dependent on things that have the tendency to change.
I am a Child of God. I walk in victory. My existence and importance on this earth is defined by whose I am- God. And this should be the testimony of every believer.
P.S: Owning things is not bad. Nah! C’mon, I have crazy plans, I work towards daily to see my dreams become reality. Things taking ownership of the definition of your existence, is the mistake.
Do you struggle to admit that you don’t have it all together? Why do you think we strive to put up a front of perfection? How do you deal with this daily challenge? I will really love to learn from you, let’s keep it real in the comments section. Own it. It’s your space!
Have an amazing week ahead!
PT TIP OF THE DAY
The significance of our existence is greater than the things we have.
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Princess Okechukwu!
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Ha!Post hitting home…First thing on my heart is no, I do not act like I have it together, I never have.But let me search my heart again…there’s been days when I would smile and say i’m fine when I am not.People think I am a super man and I smile and don’t say nothing but generally I thank God for the grace to keep it real.I am basically always aware of my brokenness and nothingness.I struggle..some days harder than the next and I am not ashamed to say it.Weaknesses with my thoughts here and there, only God’s Word is my anchor.I believe that we should let people see the flaws and in so doing, magnify God’s power at work in us.And babes, seriously? No internet and all and still blogging.Ok, I remember when I used to do that last year in law school. Phone got bad and all and will take my laptop inside school to use school wifi everytime.So I get how hard that must have been for you. But still grace.That grace is available for you to start being consistent now again.Love and love and love and love and hugs sissss!And this is from my mail oh, rubbish will be underneath. Sorry Frances Okorowww.imperfectlyperfectlives.com From: Precious Thoughts!Sent: Monday, October 26, 2015 01:35To: okorofrances@gmail.comReply To: Precious Thoughts!Subject: [New post] Yes, I am a Christian, and I do not have it all together!
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Princess Okechukwu posted: ”
‘Can we be honest with each other?’
It is no news that it’s easy to talk about the good, the merriment and successes we experience, but when it’s time to be vulnerable or transparent in sharing the mistakes we have made or sad experiences we “
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I chuckle when you add your ending statement with ‘this is from my mail…’
If there’s anyone I know that has the ‘gift of transparency’ it’s you, Bebe! You’re graced with transparency on a different level, I tell you.
Yes, there’s grace available for consistency, I shall do better.
Thanks for your comment, Hun. This part hit me: ‘Only God’s Word is my anchor’ 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 I know from experience why the Word should be everything.
Love you loads!
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“Change how you see yourself. If you define what makes you, by the things you have, then there is still some work to be done. We will lose things, we will gain things. The beauty of our lives should not be dependent on things that have the tendency to change.”
The above words went through my heart like a Nurse’s syringe through Human flesh..
First off Hiya Princess toh Sure.. Blogger toh fine.. Whats up?! Thing eez to me yeah.. I doubt if life will EVER be perfect.. For me.. For you.. For anyone.. i dont just think so… as there will always be times that we will need more and even choose to believe that we would be better only if we had more.. But thats not True.
To this Young and utterly confused 23 years 11 months 17 days old child yeah.. Living a life that will count for something is all that really Matters (Paraphrased words of the great Chude Jideonwo).. So my advice eez. kick of your shoes and live a life of Purpose all day every day.. Plus thats really easy to do if we think about it well.. Cause we dont need all the cash to touch lives.. or all the gadgets to make a difference and create smiles.. as on the long run yeah.. purpose is generated from Internal self worth and not external assets.. Cheers Bubba..and thanks for sharing.. then the crowd goes.. Ooossshheeey Turn uP!
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Hello Duru toh sure, I hail thee!
‘Purpose is generated from internal self worth and not external assets’…
I can pick out more of your words that struck a chord with me. Live a life of Purpose everyday- Yes!!
And you’re right, we won’t find perfection in something that is temporal- this life.
Thank you so much for your comment.
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