Ladies and Gentlemen,
I bring you good tidings from my chamber of rest. Good tidings? Yes! Good tidings as the ‘Let’s Talk’ segment has been dormant for a while, but it’s kicking off with the above topic. What a kick off, right?
If you are reading this post, I am sure you are very familiar with this popular question. Different people ask this question for different reasons. But here’s today’s focus……
We will be talking about when this question is asked in a relationship [friendship inclusive] between a man and a woman.
You see, do not think that I am putting up this post because I have all the answers or appropriate answers to the questions that this post intends to answer [with your help]. No, I don’t have the most suitable [most suitable because not everyone will agree] answers because looking back at how I have handled this question, there are things I would’ve done differently.
Two months ago, I heard of an experience that made me think about the ‘are you a virgin?’ question, and in the course of my thinking, I got to understand that maybe, just maybe the asking of this question is being abused.
I do not see any reason why a lady who has just met a guy and is still getting to know if it’s safe to ‘warm up’ [be friendly] to him, should be asked if she is still a virgin [a day after meeting]. Insinuating that her taking time, means she is a virgin, that if she isn’t a virgin; she will relate differently [Real story]
Just like I told the lady, I am reiterating it here- I do not see how a lady taking her time to know how she will relate with a guy she has just met, shows if she is a virgin or not. I find that theory ridiculous.
Personally, I feel this question is a very sensitive one, and should be asked purposefully. I may be wrong but I think it’s safe to say that most times, the men are the ones asking the women. Like I said, I could be wrong, but I am sure some women do ask but let’s just say men take the plunge mostly.
After listening to the above story, I had the following questions on my mind:
- When should this question be asked?
- When can the curiosity to know the answer to this question, be said to be unecessary?
- Is the asking of this question restricted to intimate relationships? [deliberately excluding other situations when this question can be asked, like during a medical appointment etc]
- Do you feel this question is a sensitive one or is not a big deal?
I will really love to read your thoughts and my friend also. Feel free to share your experiences as you deem fit.
It’s a ‘Let’s Talk’ segment, which means I take the back seat. So take the page, Ladies and Gentlemen…
P.S: It will be great to hear the men’s view as well as the women’s, please share. Thank you.
PT QUOTE OF THE DAY
Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out. Colossians 4:6
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