I am not an ardent promoter of the ‘Theme for the month’ affair, not that I am against it, it is just what it is. But, I am so revved up for this month, as the Lord specifically dropped a word in my Spirit, and I will like to share with you, and hopefully, we can key into it prayerfully.
December is our month of laughter. The Lord is blessing us with laughter, and all who will get the news of His workings will laugh with us. God is invading our lives with new life, that will change who we are, in a manner that will be a point of lifetime recognition of His supremacy. He is crowning your steadfastness in pleasing Him despite the odds, with an astounding fulfillment of His promises to you. Amen. Genesis 21 v 6
Today’s WIGTW is one where we talk about certain things I have found out and kept to myself, not because I was being stingy with the knowledge, but because I felt, ‘Well, every christian knows this, why be a broken record’. But if there’s anything the Holy Spirit is teaching me and helping me do, is to let go of the mindset of assuming that everyone knows these things. It is amazing that in the course of learning this lesson, my eyes have been opened to how my assumptions, have pleased the deceiver. I am also reminded that we are held accountable for the things we know, and never share or say. I cannot remember the passage in the New Testament that specifically deals with this truth, apart from 2 Timothy 2 v 23 -26 but let’s look at Ezekiel 3 v 20…
And if the righteous turn back from living righteously and take up with evil when I step in and put them in a hard place, they’ll die. If you haven’t warned them, they’ll die because of their sins, and none of the right things they’ve done will count for anything- and I’ll hold you responsible. MSG
I know the above passage is heavy, but that was the passage that came to heart, even though it has many ‘branches’.
As always, this post is coming from a place of love; not judgement or castigation. Remember, it is a ‘When I got this wrong’ segment.
You are to be attracted to the Body, Soul and Spirit. Yes, I am talking about the opposite sex, in terms of a purposeful relationship. If there is one ground rule that Christians are very much ready to voice out, is the fact that, as a christian, we should not be superficially focused when considering a partner, we should be more concerned of their spiritual substance over the physicals. True! But, we shouldn’t tilt the scale to cause an imbalance. A human being has a body, soul and spirit. Why do we ignore that there are other two parts to a human being and solely focus on one? Some of us are attracted to the spirituality, that we forget that the other two parts of our beings exist for a reason, then when it gets down to it, we realize that there’s spirituality and there’s practicality. One does not have to outweigh the other. There just has to be a balance. I feel it’s high time we had an understanding that a very spiritual man/woman does not necessarily make the ‘perfect’ partner, but a balanced man/woman, in spirit, soul and body. Let’s understand my choice of this word ‘balance’, as well. It is expected that the ‘ideal christian’ be spirit-controlled [with the Holy Spirit being the driver], with a soul in a body. In other words, the spiritual aspect is very vital, but it is not the ‘master key’ of the being. So, I hope that we have this understanding that God desires that we get into balanced-purposeful relationships; not seeking perfection, but maturity and whole being compatibility.
Marriage is not the goal or guaranteed. Who are we kidding? We are Christians. Yes, but there have been times when we have been clouded with expectation of marriage, that we live today storing up treasures and skills for the next ministry. Is that wrong? If that’s the sole purpose you are seeking in your existence, yes, it is wrong. You see, there is no place in the bible that says: ‘a christian must marry before he/she makes it to heaven’ Nowhere. God promises to give us the desires of our hearts, but our desires should never take priority over the desire of seeing Him. Some days ago, I came across the profile of a woman who had recently become a widow, and has two children to cater for, and the manner in which she is dealing with the loss, brought me to the cross. In those moments of reflection, I got the understanding of the way we have got it wrong. Some of us are angry with God because we don’t have partners of our own. Some of us are bitter and cannot rejoice with anyone because we feel God has denied us of the ‘most precious gift ever’. When did we get to the point where the gifts give us more meaning to life, than the giver of the gift? So just before we take on the hashtag #iMustMarryBeforeChristComes without really thinking deeply, let us be reminded that nothing in this world is guaranteed. The return of Christ is guaranteed, that’s the only thing that will forever remain constant. Is it wrong to desire to be married? NO! But in that desire, let there be an understanding that marriage was and is never the goal; Christ is.
There’s a difference between knowing of Christ’s love and having an experience. Not that you do not know this, but for the purpose of this point, I will state the ‘obvious’. God is love. The beginning and the ending of love. It is very possible to know about God’s love and yet not have an experience. A person may not have an experience not because God has not shown him/her love; but because his/her eyes have not been opened to His love. Someone who has not experienced the love of God cannot accurately love another like God, not that any person can match up to God’s display of it, but someone who has had an experience is more likely to follow steps of his/her Maker. It is easy for a person to give you the A to Z of God’s love, but when it gets down to it, the one with the experience of God’s love is able to give out what he/she has- God’s kind of love. I used to think that every christian should be able to love like Christ, but now I know that it is deeper than that.
There you have them, some of the things I got wrong. I am no love/relationship specialist. This post is coming from a place of growth and revelation.
It is my desire, that everyday that we spend on earth, we get to be better, the man and woman God sees us as already, and that as we get better, we be salts, influencing our world.
Can you relate with any of the above points? Or do you have a WIGTW experiences you will love to share, feel free to make the comments’ section you ‘canvas’ or feel free to send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org, if you want to be anonymous.
PT TIP OF THE DAY
Don’t be misled: No one makes a fool of God. What a person plants, he will harvest. The person who plants selfishness, ignoring the needs of others- ignoring God!- harvests a crop of weeds. All he’ll have to show for his life is weeds! But the one who plants in response to God, letting God’s Spirit do the growth work in him, harvests a crop of real life, eternal life. Galatians 6 v 6 MSG
Character and Anointing are necessary; don’t choose one over the other.
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